Monday, April 19, 2010

Family Grief ...

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The loss of a child comes with a lifelong process of grief. This past week we were talking with other families who have lost children and we all kinda felt like there is something just different about a child's death that kinda sets it apart in the world of grief. Don't get me wrong - death is death, and death sucks. But there is something about losing a child that just stands out -- the natural order of life and death is disturbed and families are forever changed.

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Our families process of grief has been an amazing time of reflection, where even in the midst of the intense pain and sorrow there are so many ways God's beautiful hands can be seen moving in our family -- if we just take a second to see it. I noticed this week that all three of us seem to grieve at different times. It seems while God has been speaking Joy and Peace into Adam  and I's hearts, Madison has been going through a week of deep reflection and remberence which causes sadness and misbehavior. But her time of grief comes at a moment where mommy and daddy are feeling strong and are ready to hold her and help her through the pain, allowing us to give her the support she needs.



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Then there are the times where Adam or Myself are desperately waning to hold our little boy once again -- it seems like those see times Madi brings her sweet spirit and child like faith and understanding and reminds us through her life that God still loves us and has amazing plans for our family.




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Our grief process as a family is an amazing thing guided by the hand of God. The process remindes us of our deep love for Gavin and also Gods overwhelming love for us. It's hard, but it seems if we just take time to step out of our pain, even if just for a moment, we can see the bright warm sun peaking through the dense fog.


3 comments:

Jessica said...

First, No drama :)
Second, I love this post. Your family is handling this...the loss, the grief, the longing, the backwards and unfair circumstances of losing a child, with such grace and dignity.
Sharing your hurt with those of us who have no clue the kind of pain you are experiencing. I just cling to my children tighter, I pray over them more often, and after I read your posts I can't help but sneak an extra peek at them as they sleep.
Gavin's life...has such meaning and purpose, most of which you probably will never know on this earth. I know that his life and your story has changed how I see illness and suffering.
Thank you for being brave and raw. For sharing deeply with us who only got to know your little one through pictures and stories.
I'm still praying.
Hugs from Maryland
J.

JayCee said...

You seem to be dealing with your grief in a constructive/healing kind of way. Your testimony is an encouragement to others. It's cool how God uses one family member to encourage another and doesn't allow all family members to be in the depth of despair on the same day!

Kat @ Inspired To Action said...

I just have to say those pictures are amazing...