I never once thought that in order to grow my family I would need to be trained and educated before we welcome our child into this world. Obviously this kind of family, we so desperately want requires us to do just this -- and that's what we have been doing for the past week. So much training and so much education, my brain is full and my heart is ever more eager to find and bring our new little one home. On a side note -- just imagine if every parent to be were required to fully educate themselves before the birth of a biological child -- gosh, this would would be a different place.
Last week we attended a traumatic and acquired brain injury conference in Philadelphia. Besides the fact that is was sponsored by a lawyer wanting to help families pursue legal action, and this obviously does not apply to us -- there were still some really good presentations such as a look at neuropsychological testing and an introduction to ABM therapy. We were very intrigued by the ABM, so if anyone has a story to share please do so in the comment section.
Later that week Adam I were re certified in infant and adult CPR and then the following day we attended an all day conference on the effects of violence and trauma on the developing brain and then attend the break out session on fetal alcohol syndrome where a birth mother to three alcohol exposed children spoke. Wow, talk about God's amazing grace -- it was very powerful.
My brain hurts just thinking about all the gosh darn learning.
But it's all interesting and of course it's all more than worth it. I would sit in a class for years if it meant we could bring our child home to join our family. The search continues on for our little boy or girl. We have had a few potential matches but nothing so far has resulted in an interview. We have been a little late on the children that we were interested in. We are looking at a little boy in New Jersey but we haven't heard if they are wanting to bring us in for an interview.
It sounds so Cliche to say we are just trusting God to bring our little one home -- but it's totally true. Adoption is nuts. Adopting from the US social services system is a very difficult process. If someone tries to do it without the peace that comes from letting go of ones dreams and allowing God to take over and take the lead, it can be a long journey filled with lots anxiety and stress. We just can't do it that way. We are trusting that Owens number six is already being prepared to join our family and we in the same way are being prepared to bring him or her home. No need to stress, nothing we do will make it happen faster.
Easier said than done -- but we are trying.
For now we just dream, hope and pray. It's crazy how a mother can love a child so deeply, even before the child knows he or she is loved by her.