Yesterday was one of those day you just can not possible describe in words -- the day you meet your child for the first time. Adoption or birth -- it's all the very similar and very much amazing. Yesterday we started out our day in the morning heading downtown to the Philadelphia Department of Human Services, who holds the legal custody of Jayden until it's transferred over to us in court. We went down kinda knowing that we were already chosen to be his mommie and daddy, but we still needed to go through a formal interview and look over his more current file and make sure we all felt good about this match.
Interviewing for a child you love and want so badly is one of the most difficult of situations you can place a family in. Just imagine if you had to interview before you were allowed to conceive your biological children -- awkward right? Exactly. But we got through it and all felt total peace that this was indeed the perfect match for our family and the perfect match for Jayden.
Jayden just turned two years old and has been living in a medical facility since a few months after birth when he suffered a non accidental head trauma. It's not my place to give you details but it is a very hard story to swallow -- hard to imagine the suffering this little baby endured. Jayden is a survivor. Many children who sustained his injuries will never recover and many never survive the trauma -- but our fighter did. His heart started to beat again and the life that was once stolen from him -- he stole right back and continues to heal and recover. From what we were told this little boy has overcome so much. He came into care with severe medical needs but now has been able to be weaned off a ventilator and really has minimal medical concerns.
The brain injury left him impaired in many ways but he is full of personality and typical two year old spunk. He has cortical visual impairment just like Angela, has a trach to help prevent aspiration due to his inconsistent gag reflex and has a g-tube for feedings. He is just learning how to walk with the assistance of a walker but this kid is a mover -- from what we saw yesterday he is a little boy on the go with things to do and places to explore!
It was heartbreaking to see him in the environment he is currently living. The staff have taken great care of him to the best of their abilities but it is still an institutional setting with rules and regulation that prevent any child from living a normal life and receiving the consistent love and attention they need and deserve. It breaks my heart to think that this little boy has never known what it means to have a home or even the concept of a mom and dad. Needless to say leaving him was difficult.
This process is going to be a bit more complicated than it was when we transitioned Angela into our home. Since he is in a medical facility they have their own guidelines on amount of training hours needed and length of transition and a whole bunch of other stuff. We are going to make it work. We are ready for the long haul and praying that God makes a way for this to be easier than anyone ever expected. For now we will begin visits hopefully this weekend or next week, which we are hoping will be several times per week with both Adam and I and then I'm hoping to be apart of his therapies and also his doctor visits.
Can't wait to bring him home -- give him a place in this family and live an amazing life together. Trusting God once again and believe that his timing is simply perfect, no need to stress or have anxiety knowing that the details of our new little boys life and placement into our home and have already been worked out -- we're just along for the ride!